Washington, Mar h 24: Many of life's most momentous occasions that should be some of the most joyful-getting married, having kids, taking vacation-can also be the worst of times
The pressure of planning a major event or the anxiety of trying to live up to our own expectations can turn once-joyful milestones into anxiety-filled occasions, according to Huffington Post.
Here are 10 pivotal life events that commonly cause stress and remedies to bring the joy back into your most memorable milestones.
Taking a vacation: Vacation that is supposed to be relaxing can actually end up stressing you out.
An Expedia.com survey found that 53 percent of working Americans don't come back from vacation feeling refreshed, and 30 percent struggle to deal with work stress during their vacation time.
Leaving work responsibilties back at the office during vacation time can also become a source of guilt.
Dr. Byan E. Robinson told the Washington Post that mindfulness could help combat work-related vacation anxiety.
Sunday, the so-called "day of rest" is actually a day of stress for many working people.
A study by UK mental health charity Mind found that 26 percent of workers experience stress on Sundays because they are anxious about going back to work on Monday.
To deal with the Sunday blues, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis of Psychology Today recommends staying active, creating a schedule for yourself, being around friends and family, and volunteering.
Getting a new job or promotion: A survey by the human resources firm Development Dimensions International found that six in 10 managers rated the stress of a promotion or career transition as being second only to a divorce.
Although the news of a job offer or big promotion is usually exciting, starting that new position can ramp up pressure and anxiety.
Concern over superiors' expectations, dealing with the learning curve of new tasks and acclimating to a new environment can all make you feel off balance.
Psychologist and HuffPost blogger Heidi Grant Halvorson says simple strategies-like thinking about the big picture and focusing on progress rather than perfection-can help put you at ease.
Falling in love: Although love has been shown to reduce stress, the early stages of falling for someone new can be a stressful, emotional whirlwind. Intimacy with a new partner can trigger fear, anxiety, hormone changes, and frequent mood fluctuations, creating an emotionally turbulent and frequently stressful state.
Since falling in love has been shown to make people more creative, "Psychology Today" suggests creative pursuits like writing and drawing as an antidote to the more stressful aspects of being head over heels for your new boyfriend or girlfriend.
Again birthdays and all the surrounding pressures of planning your own party can trigger the body's stress responses.
Birthdays are a time to take stock, so the yearly reminder that you're getting older is often fraught with uncertainty about the future and past regrets.
Staying present through mindfulness practices can help to ease birthday anxiety, especially around big milestones like turning 30 or 40.
Being engaged: The months leading up to the supposed "happiest day of your life" can become a breeding ground of stress and anxiety for newly engaged couples.
Trying to plan a perfect wedding-and the pressure of making sure everything goes off without a hitch-drives many brides- and grooms-to-be into a frenzy.
According to a survey by The Knot, 50 percent of brides found that wedding planning was more stressful than they expected, and that in the last three weeks of their engagement, brides spend an average of 11 hours per week wedding panning.
To cut the stress, HuffPost Weddings advises knowing what you want, making time for self-care, and focusing on what's truly important.
Retiring: FInancial concerns, anxiety over leaving work and struggling to adapt to a new lifestyle frequently add a stressful element to the early stages of retirement-particularly for those with Type A personalities.
Career consultant Donald Asher recommends finding a new hobby or activity to add structure and just enough stress to ease the transition. (ANI)